Give each other space in a relationship

I may not be qualified to share about marriage, being one who is enjoying life to the fullest as a bachelor, however, these thoughts relate a lot to relationships. And relationships with people (and the Universe) are part of our daily lives:

“You were born together, and together you shall be for evermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days. Aye, you shall be together even in the memory of God. But let there be spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone. Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.” (Kahlil Gibran)

To add to what Kahlil Gibran has shared about marriage, another writer, Stuart Wilde shared that its important to understand that whomever you choose to be with is an individual. They can never be you and you can never be them. You should honour that individuality in them, and you should honour yourself. That understanding is sacrosanct. Then the relationship that develops escalates into an incredible crescendo of energy. Entrapment is ugly – allow people the space to be.

Take a moment to see the people in our lives and notice how we relate to one another: Do we take one another for granted? Do we make them fit into our version of who they should be? or, do we appreciate their uniqueness and be grateful that they bring their special qualities into our lives?

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