• Open channels for others to communicate their feelings

    Open channels for others to communicate their feelings

    ‘I have found it enriching to open channels whereby others can communicate their feelings, their private perceptual worlds, to me.’
    “Because understanding is rewarding, I would like to reduce the barriers between others and me, so that they can, if they wish, reveal themselves more fully.
    In the therapeutic relationship there are a number of ways by [...]

  • Permit yourself to understand another person

    Permit yourself to understand another person

    ‘I have found it of enormous value when I can permit myself to understand another person.’
    “The way in which I have worded this statement may seem strange to you. Is it necessary to permit oneself to understand another? I think it is. Our first reaction to most of the statements which we hear from other [...]

  • Listen to yourself, be yourself

    Listen to yourself, be yourself

    ‘I find I am more effective when I can listen acceptantly to myself, and can be myself.’
    “I feel that over the years I have learned to become more adequate in listening to myself; so that I know, somewhat more adequately than I used to, what I am feeling at any given moment – to be [...]

  • Do not act as something you are not

    Do not act as something you are not

    I am going to share some discoveries about relationships which I have been ‘taught by Carl Rogers’ through his writings, and these learnings are taken from his book: “On Becoming a Person”.
    ‘In my relationships with persons I have found that it does not help, in the long run, to act as though I were something [...]

  • There is no need to ‘fix things’

    There is no need to ‘fix things’

    ‘The more I am open to the realities in me and in the other person, the less do I find myself wishing to rush in to “fix things”.’
    “As I try to listen to myself and the experiencing going on in me, and the more I try to extend that same listening attitude to another person, [...]

  • Accept another person, wholly

    Accept another person, wholly

    ‘I have found it highly rewarding when I can accept another person.’
    “I have found that truly to accept another person and his feelings is by no means an easy thing, any more than is understanding. Can I really permit another person to feel hostile toward me? Can I accept his anger as a real and [...]

  • Two ways of seeing the world

    Two ways of seeing the world

    The Buddhist monk and humanitarian Mathieu Ricard celebrates the virtues of optimism as the attitude that allows us to move forward and accomplish our aims in life, despite setbacks and difficulties. While pessimism convinces us that our problems will last forever and we have no capability to act, optimism brings hope (the kind that is [...]

  • Developing healthy desires

    Developing healthy desires

    Jack Kornfield, the renowned Buddhist teacher and psychologist said:
    “Desire is not a bad thing. It’s a source of life and creativity. But unhealthy desire causes pain and suffering. If we pay intimate attention to the workings of desire, we can discover how to transform it into an experience of health, wealth, and well-being.”
    Our world runs [...]

  • How will I use this day?

    How will I use this day?

    I am sharing this article written by SAKYONG MIPHAM RINPOCHE on ways we can use the day with mindfulness and great awareness. He mentioned that all of us meditate throughout the whole day but the focus is often on “me”. He said that if we cultivate a different outlook on our day and how we [...]

  • Loving Speech is speaking from the Heart

    Loving Speech is speaking from the Heart

    “Words can travel thousands of miles. May my words create mutual understanding and love. May they be as beautiful as gems, as lovely as flowers.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
    How often have we allowed ourselves to say a harsh word or two to a friend or a family member in a moment of anger or irritation? [...]